Like many Christian singles, I assumed that meeting someone and getting married would simply happen along the way.
I believed that if I followed the rules, lived faithfully, and waited patiently, the right relationship would eventually appear.
In the meantime, I built a full life. I worked, developed strong friendships, stayed involved in church and community, and tried to live faithfully. Yet the relationship I longed for never seemed to arrive the way I expected.
Over time, I found myself slowly adjusting who I was in hopes of becoming more “dateable.” I began minimizing parts of myself I thought might be undesirable.
And eventually, it led me to a painful conclusion: if doing everything I was told still wasn’t working, maybe something about me was fundamentally flawed, and I was simply fated to live without romantic love.
But one small moment revealed something I couldn’t ignore.
I was sitting in Barnes & Noble reading a book about dating when a man walked in who I found very attractive. Instead of introducing myself or even staying in the room, I grabbed my keys and headed for the door.
I realized I was literally running away from the very thing I said I wanted. That moment became a turning point.
It pushed me to look more honestly at how I was approaching dating and the messages I had absorbed about relationships.
I started asking new questions:
What did I actually want in a relationship?
How was I hiding myself instead of celebrating and highlighting who I was as worthy?
What actions was I willing to take to pursue the life I hoped for?
The journey included challenges, hard-earned lessons, and more than a few tears. But it also brought clarity, growth, and eventually the relationship I had hoped for.
I met and married the most wonderful and unexpected man. Today, we are raising our two sons and building a life together that I deeply cherish.
That journey is what led me to the work I do today.
I believe the desire for love and partnership is something to honor. My hope is to help Christian singles like you approach dating with clarity, courage, and self-trust so you can pursue relationships with intention and confidence.
