Dating with Discernment

An Invitation to Wise Pursuit

This is a guided program that equips accomplished, faith-filled single men and women to approach dating with wisdom, clarity, and steady action. 

Inside you’ll find spiritual depth, practical teaching, proven frameworks, and a supportive community that keeps you moving toward a healthy, covenant-minded relationship.

What This Is and What It Isn’t

This is not another “just pray and wait” sermon.
This is not a vent-session support group.
This is not a dating-app hack that treats people like swipes.

This is a strategic, faith-anchored training ground where you will:

  • Learn repeatable frameworks for meeting, evaluating, and deciding with wisdom.
  • Process real emotions in real time so triggers don’t hijack healthy judgment.
  • Practice courageous action inside a community that shares your values and momentum.

If you’re done guessing and ready to date with clarity, confidence, and peace, you’re in the right place.

Why I Created This

I know what it feels like to feel like I am succeeding everywhere except in dating. When dating came into the picture, I found myself shrinking, second-guessing, and quietly believing that something was wrong with me.

Now, I see that I wasn’t alone. Talented, faith-filled men and women like you kept telling me a similar story: in every other arena, you stand tall. But romance made you feel small, unsure, and worn out by conflicting advice. 

Dating with Discernment was created to change that narrative: a place where your desire for marriage is welcomed, your voice is strengthened, and practical, prayer-anchored steps replace confusion. 

My hope is that you step in feeling hesitant and walk out pursuing love without diminishing who you are.

This Space Is for You If

  • You are ready to take responsibility for how you engage in dating rather than leaving it to chance.
  • You want to define your standards with conviction instead of adjusting them to keep someone interested.
  • You are willing to evaluate character and consistency over time rather than relying on chemistry alone.
  • You want practical tools that help you make steady decisions in real time.
  • You are committed to honoring your faith without outsourcing your discernment.
  • You are ready to pursue a partnership with maturity, courage, and intention.

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Kind Words

  • Lauren helped me move through one of the most difficult experiences of my life, a break-up that I thought would truly break me, and supported me into building the healthiest, happiest relationship I have ever been in.
    Julia K.
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  • What stood out was Lauren’s careful attention to all aspects of me, mentally and emotionally … She aimed to help me integrate my values, beliefs, emotions, and spiritual life into a philosophy and structure of dating that allowed me the freedom to choose to accept her guidance and insight, or forego it. Lastly, she actively listened and provided poignant feedback rooted in a thorough knowledge of my personality, values, and thought processes.
    David B.
    David B.
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  • Your grounded hope, attuned engagement, and thoughtful, incisive feedback made me feel both affirmed as a dating person and appropriately challenged to re-consider my prevailing narrative about as a dating person (eg. negative self-beliefs).
    Ingrid N.
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What You Will Experience

Rewrite Your Dating Story

Replace limiting beliefs with a redemptive narrative that supports healthy dating.

Prepare Mind, Body & Spirit

Enter dating faithfully grounded and regulated, ready to respond instead of react.

Own Your Purposeful Intent

Hold your desire and intent for marriage with confident, prayerful action.

Create Your Dating Plan

Create a step-by-step plan that consistently puts you in front of quality matches.

Practice Clear Discernment Skills

Gather clear data from each interaction and trust your growing judgment.

Navigate Desire & Attraction

Read attraction signals and show up authentically while honoring boundaries, security, and safety.

Master the First Dates

Move through the first five dates with a strategy that protects your heart and reveals character.

Maintain Boundaries & Pace

Set and hold boundaries that pace intimacy and foster clarity.

Define Standards & Compatibility

Establish non-negotiable standards and measure real compatibility with peace.

Make Confident Relationship Decisions

Decide to commit or release a relationship using a simple, prayer-anchored framework.

Secure Your Spot Today

If you are done sampling quick-fix tips and ready to invest in a proven path toward a Christ-centered relationship, claim your seat now.

Dating With Discernment

Community

Includes:

  • Private member community with messaging, encouragement, and monthly challenges that keep dating engaging
  • Monthly Discernment Gathering with Lauren for connection, teaching, and Q&A
  • Additional regular Q&A sessions so you’re not just learning…you’re applying this to your dating life. (Beginning 2027)
  • Resource library with workshops, tools, and ongoing curriculum updates
Investment:

$47 per month

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Frequently Asked Questions

Most Christian dating advice focuses on finding certainty before taking action. Dating with Discernment teaches a different approach: dating is not about finding certainty—it’s about gathering wisdom. You’ll learn practical dating skills, healthier decision-making, and how faith and intentional action work together.

Dating with Discernment is for Christian single adults who want to approach dating with greater confidence, clarity, and intentionality. Whether you are new to dating, returning after a breakup or divorce, frustrated with dating apps, or simply tired of second-guessing yourself, the frameworks are designed to help you move forward with wisdom and courage.

The community is hosted on a private platform, and members are expected to treat one another’s stories, experiences, and personal information with care and discretion. While we cannot guarantee the actions of every individual, protecting privacy and creating a trustworthy environment are important values within the community.

Dating with Discernment is an ongoing, month-to-month membership designed to help you learn, practice, and get support as you date in real life.
Each month includes a Discernment Gathering, where we dive into a specific area of dating, relationships, attraction, boundaries, discernment, or personal growth. You’ll leave with practical ways to put what you’re learning into practice in your own dating life.
On most Mondays, Lauren hosts a live Q&A where you can bring the questions that come up as you actually date. This is where we take the principles we’re learning and apply them to real situations: Should I go on another date? How do I communicate this boundary? Am I moving too quickly? What do I do when no one is asking me out?
Between gatherings, you’ll have access to the DWD community and a growing library of resources to help you put what you’re learning into action.
There is no long-term contract. Membership is $47/month and you can cancel at any time. DWD is designed as a longer formation journey, though—not a quick-fix course. Dating changes as you do, and the questions you need help answering at month two may be very different from the ones you’re asking at month ten.

You’re creating your path as you learn in community. There is no falling behind. And if you find yourself stuck, we are here to help you.

Dating with Discernment is an educational and coaching program; it does not replace licensed mental-health care.

The frameworks serve adults – men and women in their twenties, thirties, forties, and beyond, as long as you want to date with clarity and faith.

That’s completely normal. Many members join feeling discouraged, overwhelmed, or unsure where to begin. You do not need to have dating figured out before you start. The program is designed to help you build confidence through practice, support, and small steps forward.

Dating with Discernment is designed first and foremost as a Christian learning and activation community, not a matchmaking program or dating group.

Because the focus is on learning, vulnerability, and personal growth, we strongly encourage members not to pursue romantic relationships with other members during the same active coaching cycle. This helps create an environment where everyone can participate fully without feeling pressure, distraction, or concern about romantic dynamics within the group.

That said, we recognize that attraction and connection can happen naturally when thoughtful, values-aligned people spend time together. If members choose to explore a connection, we simply ask that they do so with maturity, discretion, and respect for the broader community. Our community covenant outlines more specific parameters.

Our goal is not to prevent connection but to protect the integrity of the learning environment so that everyone can focus on growth, discernment, and building healthy dating skills.